Accepting Yourself

Accepting current understanding of reality, that is what 'accepting yourself as your are' is all about.  No more no less.  Well, in fact it is far far more because of what can happen when you genuinely and deeply accept reality!  And understanding can change.   The word 'accept' is defined in several ways including: -     to acknowledge that something is true -     to tolerate something without protesting or attempting to change it -     to acknowledge a fact or truth and come to terms with it   When I use the word in this context I mean the first definition - to acknowledge that something is true.  There...

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Standards and Values

I recently read Michael Neill's newsletter 'A Question of Standards', which got me thinking about what relationship standards may have with values. I like Michael's description of standards and so will share that with you:   "A 'standard', as I am using the word, is an arbitrary line in the sand that determines what we consider to be acceptable and unacceptable in our world. When our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, or circumstances drop below a certain standard, it automatically triggers compensatory action on our part. As long as we remain at or above our current standard for something, it receives no...

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Using the Influence your Personal Values Have

Do you realise how much your personal values influence what you think, do and say? I didn’t fully appreciate it until my first coach asked me to consider what my core values were, so that we could ensure what ideas came up could be checked against them. This was really powerful.   Not only do they unconsciously influence your life, but also you can actively use them.   For example, when I was stuck on something another coach would ask me either something like "which of your core values would help you right now?" or "how may thinking about your core values help you...

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