Strength traps!

What do you think you're good at?  A lot of people don't really know, let along how and when they apply their strengths.  And reading some articles about strengths it would be understandable if you came away thinking that strengths are always good to use!  I certainly have.  There tends to be an indirect message that it's good to maximise strengths.   So what do strength traps look like?  I'm going to concentrate on three types of traps - there could easily be more!  Remember these traps don't broadcast themselves, or have a thought-nudger 'be careful now, a strength trap is just...

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Do you think ‘courage’ is one of your strengths?

Courage shows itself in so many different ways.   During a coaching session with one client  (I'll call her Nadine) we were looking at her strengths.  Nadine did not believe she had courage.  When answering my question about what courage looked like for her, she said something like "Well, I see it linked to physical courage, like parachuting or having a walking holiday in the jungle. I don't think anything I do needs courage.  I don't feel outside my comfort zone."   You may be wondering what she does do!  I certainly would be curious if I were you.  Well, Nadine has acted as compere...

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The Dragon Of Uncertainty!

My opening quote:

“Because Dragons are full of wisdom and make wonderful friends it is vital to learn to walk with them and to have their constant support.”

~ Trevor Bentley, author of ‘A Touch of Magic’ and gestalt organisational consultant

 

Dragons live within each of us!  Sometimes they are quiet and go unnoticed.  Other times they appear fearsome and perplexing.  Their fire and energy seem out of control and wayward.  We often make them into difficult enemies rather than wonderful friends. I may be biased because I am Welsh!  
In this blog I want to focus on the Dragon...

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Thinking, Awareness and Choice: Part 2

Increasing awareness and choice   So in part 1 I considered the relationships between feelings, thinking, awareness and choice.   I know when I’ve read such blogs, I’ve thought “OK, so how can I increase my awareness and choice?”  And I’m hugely tempted to give you a suggestion on how to do it, even though I know that's not the way to go!   Now you may be asking that question.  However, is it because you consider that you ‘should’ or ‘must’ increase your awareness and, therefore, choice?  If so, it is likely your ‘interest’ in increasing your awareness is coming from somewhere other...

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Thinking, Awareness and Choice: Part 1

Thinking and awareness Some time ago my cat was ill and I was waiting for the results of a blood test. Over the next day his health deteriorated further and then during the night he went out and did not return – a very unusual occurrence.  I was extremely worried due to his ill-health and I had heard that cats sometimes go away to die.  Well two days later I thought he must be dead.   After tears I reflected on what had happened and realised that I had chosen to give him freedom and this led to these consequences.   What I’m...

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